June AD2021 Online Practice Detailing

WELCOME: I welcome you all severally and collectively to this month’s outing and practice detailing. Happy deliberation.

Chap. Prof. David Mike, the Anchor.

 

TOPIC: Homes are being destroyed before being built, erected or established.

PREAMBLE: There is a generally accepted that not every successful relationship that ends up in marriage and marriage relationship surely leads to home building. However an unsuccessful relationship, or a relationship that does not result in marriage is a home destroyer because the home that is expected to be built at the success of such relationship is broken or bulldozed prematurely. This is a kind of unmet expectation even before actual marriage occurs.

Permit me here to say empathically that there are expectations in every relationship, and thus is the reason why broken relationships are unhealthy, dangerous and also disastrous and professionals who are called:

a.     Couple counselors and chaplains.

b.     Relationship counselors and chaplains.

c.      Chaplain trained in counseling

d.     Relationship therapist

e.     Marriage counselors and chaplains.

Are raised up and professionally trained to meet with the need of couples in relationship so as to forestall any chaos and calamity.

LIFESTYLE: Professional chaplains also live in the same community and societies with the people they are called to serve and they are expected to understand the lifestyle of the people of this age for them to be able to offer beneficial services to them in the practices of their noble profession - chaplaincy.

Because the people of this age are also aware of the happenings in relationships which usually bring destruction to many young lovers, ending their lives in depression, suicide or committing murder which keep them in prison for life.

Because of this awareness of theirs, they are now demanding DNA tests (not the scientific DNA tests you know) but rather “Demand Notification Assurance” from their relationship partners. This test is conducted on the air publicly on radio.

NB: I must say to you all at this juncture that this is equally risky and also ends in insanity, mental health problems, depression, frustration, suicide and death. However to the young ones of this age it is preferred lifestyle adopted by both male and female genders to forestall disappointment in their relationship.

Beloved you will soon be able to give your opinions and contributions on this happenings, hope you are getting ready for action.

TRUE CAMPUS LIFE STORY AND CASE STUDY: Please be informed that some disclosure will be made to make story and case study authentic and real, while some information will be concealed because of confidentiality and ethics of our profession.

The campus where the case study took place is one of the federal institutions in Kwara State. The male couple in this relationship is a young graduate of the institution awaiting call up letter for NYSC mandatory service.

The female couple is also 300 level student of the same institution. The couple have been in relationship for 3 years and both parents have known and accepted them both as husband and wife.

Just recently, the friends of the female couple came around her on the campus asking her to go for DNA test, to get the needed assurance as her man had graduated from the campus.

She yielded to their pressures and contacted a presenter - name and radio station withheld. The presenter advised against the test, but the friends prevailed upon the lady; until the male lover was given a telephone call on radio to demonstrate his continued commitment to the relationship or otherwise.

After some silence on the part of the male couple, he denied ever coming across the female lover in life not to talk of 3 years of relationship. The female lover busted into tears, weeping profusely, thus becoming an object of mockery by her student colleagues.

QUESTIONS:

QUESTION 1: In your opinion, how helpful is this lifestyle of the youth in this age?

QUESTION 2: Can you as professionals think of any better test kit different from the present DNA adopted by the youths?

QUESTION 3: Do we have enough professionals such as marriage and family chaplains or counselors, couple counselors or chaplains, relationship counselors or chaplains etc to handle such cases in Nigeria?

QUESTION 4: With the market of about 100million young couples, what share of the market is APCIN calling for?

QUESTION 5: What researches should we conduct to this lifestyle?

QUESTION 6: What should be the uttermost goals of professional practioners in this case study?

CONCULSION: