JULY AD2021 Online Practice Detailing

TOPIC: True Life Story of a Confused Nigerian Woman.

WELCOME: I welcome you all severally and collectively to this month’s outing and practice detailing, hoping that we all will be able to learn one thing or the other in this episode. Remember your contributions are highly valued and regarded, therefore, contribute generously.

Happy deliberation.

Chap. Prof. David Mike, the Anchor.

PREAMBLE: It has been discovered by me that all known professions in the world, claim and profess that they are in existence to better the lot of the people, they are called to serve, help make living more comfortable and conducive for people etc.

Beloved chaplaincy as a profession is not an exemption from this.

It is pretty clear that all professionals from whatsoever professions are expected to help give meaning, joy, comfort, improvement etc to the general public by their various professional practices.

This month’s topic is how a confused, unsatisfied, hopeless middle aged Nigerian woman can be assisted from becoming insane.

SCENARIO: This is a true life story of a middle aged Nigerian woman, married to a Niger nationality, with names and location undisclosed in accordance with the confidentiality law of the ethics of our profession.

The middle aged Nigeria woman has lived with the husband for about a decade harmoniously, but in recent times, with the pressure that is being mounted upon her by her family members from home, the marriage is becoming shaky.

The woman has become confused as expectations are not met, and there is an increasing pressure from her family for them to be bankrolled by the woman. The woman’s health was fast deteriorating, she is presently in a state of confusion blaming God for her situation and fast going into insanity.

What can be done as professional practioners to help this woman from going insane? 

NB: The woman with this problem will have been allowed to be with us on the platform, but for confidentiality she is not and every input and contribution will be made available to her; therefore please be very practical and professional in your approaches.

QUESTIONS:

Question 1: How can this woman be assisted so that her marriage does not collapse?

She does not want a collapse of the marriage, but her family members back at home will not mind provided she will get someone else to marry to bankroll them.

Question 2: What can we offer as practicing professionals to help her develop higher coping capacity or rebuild the dwindling coping capacity which makes her to be confused, frustrated and hopeless?

Question 3: What can we do as professionals to help her stop blaming God for her situation?

Question 4: Why her family members unable to fend for themselves and why are they not blaming God either?

Question 5: What lessons have we learned from this scenario about marriage and expectations in marriage?

Question 6: Are there lessons for parents and family members about marriage that may be conveyed to them?

Question 7: How demanding, frustrating and dangerous can unmet expectations in marriage be and how can people be assisted not to be victims of this?

Question 8: How can people already in marriage or going into marriage relationship can be assisted as regard to expectation in marriage?

Question 9: Can you name some unmet expectations in marriage that may have compounded this woman’s condition and how can we handle them professionally to earn needed respect?

NB: The religions of both the husband and the woman are known but not mentioned to give us the opportunity to offer contributions and services as interfaith professionals.

Question 10: What words do you have for the husband of this woman?